Your People Skills Matter More than Your Smarts
My friend Kay has superb people skills. She knows just what to do to make people feel at ease. She instinctively reads the “currents” of power and rules in a room full of folks. And she knows herself too. Kay pays attention to what she’s feeling in the moment and recognizes the connection between her feelings to what she’s thinking, doing and saying.
Kay has social and emotional intelligence. In fact it’s her number one signature strength. Aside from being a nice attribute is significant part of why she is successful. That’s not just my opinion. Research backs it up.
Smarts Matter, But Not As Much As You Think
Some researchers, including Laura Belsten, PhD founder of the Institute for Social + Emotional Intelligence©, believe that your success in work and life is driven more by your social and emotional intelligence than by your smarts (IQ), or your technical abilities, like “strategic thinking” or being able to write an impressive quarterly report.
Unfortunately you most often see social and emotional intelligence when it is missing.
- The micromanaging supervisor you used to work for (or maybe still do)
- A friend who can’t handle stress or accept feedback
- Your co-worker whom no one trusts
- Their lack of social and emotional Intelligence limits their degree of success
Here is the good news.
People Skills Lead to Meaningful Results
Cultivating social and emotional Intelligence is a smart thing for anyone to do, and it’s vital if you’re a solo entrepreneur, a corporate team leader, a business owner with employees or an individual who wants to . . .
- Manage emotional responses more effectively in the moment, shaping them to be productive (versus operating from knee-jerk reactions unlikely to get your desired results)
- Develop more rewarding relationships personally and professionally
- Enhance your ability to have the difficult conversations in life
- Operate from a mindset of success, not fear of failure
- Stay composed and positive even in trying times
Social and emotional intelligence encompasses 26 skills including interpersonal communication skills, stress management, intentionality, powerful influencing skills, teamwork, trust building and many more. Social and emotional intelligence skills can be learned and strengthened throughout your life.
Effectively Operate in Today’s Workplace
The more robust your social and emotional intelligence is the better able you are to effectively operate in today’s workplace.
“Cultivating a culture where leaders have high social and emotional intelligence creates proven results in increased productivity, increased sales and profits, reduced healthcare costs, increased employee satisfaction and improved employee engagement to name a few,” says Belsten.
She goes on to say, “Managers with high scores in the relevant relationship management competencies of communication, building bonds, building trust, and inspirational leadership, are better equipped to manage their employees in a manner that brings out the best in individuals and teams.”
Cultivate Your People Skills
I’m pleased to announce I recently completed an intensive certification program in coaching social and emotional intelligence, and am now a Social + Emotional Intelligence Certified Coach ® through the Institute for Social + Emotional Intelligence®. What this means is that I’ve added new services to my portfolio including Social and Emotional Intelligence Assessment, Coaching and Training. You can read about them here. I have an array of tools and materials available for you that are designed to help all of us be more successful in work and in life.
I’d love to share more information with you about Social and Emotional Intelligence, email me or call me at 601-362-8288 and we will connect.